We should be over this phase of playing games when we are in our THIRTIES.
If you are in a relationship or dating someone and don’t want to be with them anymore, just be honest and tell them. Don’t “ghost” them/suddenly stop communicating.
If you in a relationship and you notice your feelings decrease with your partner and increase with someone else….just be honest and break up with your partner. Don’t cheat on your partner.
It’s funny how I wrote my last post about not feeling “good enough” for friends, family, exes, etc.
And as I’m writing that post…..
I had been talking to someone for weeks and all of a sudden….just stopped communicating out of nowhere.
& that validated my feelings of not feeling “good enough”.
Just talk to me & be honest. If you don’t want to talk to me anymore. Let me know.
Yes, it will hurt. But that hurt feeling will be temporary.
But I rather get an explanation than no explanation at all.
Because a sudden stop in communication is feeding into my depression and anxiety.
It’s making me feel like I’m not “good enough”. It’s making my mind question every action I did and every word I said.
“What ifs” begin to appear. What if I didn’t broaden our conversations enough? What if I shared too much about work struggles? What if I was just too boring?
What if I wasn’t good enough…
I have so many relationships (friends/exes/cousins) that have ended without any closure.
I am always left behind wondering… WHAT HAPPENED?
We surpassed our teenage years and twenties..we should be older and wiser enough to tell people how we feel.
We should be able to be honest with each other.
(& yes it is 3:39AM)